Women, are you seeking emotional support from your partner? Men, are you craving to feel desired and appreciated? Below are steps couples can easily integrate into their daily lives to get things sizzling and improve intimacy.
- Fan The Flames By Flirting
Flirt with each other throughout the day. Start thinking of foreplay as more than just physical touch or direct assertions. Consider how to display affection to your partner through your everyday actions based on their Love Language. (Not sure what your Love Languages are? Take the test here: www.5lovelanguages.com)
- Create Sparks By Using Physical Contact
Practice non-assuming touch. Find ways to come into physical contact with your partner throughout the day that does not assume that you are initiating sex. Gently rub their back while you walk past them, brush their hair away from their face, touch their hand while you’re talking, offer a foot or back massage. Give your partner a full kiss and hug at each parting and greeting.
- Keeping Things Hot
Sex really does start in the kitchen. One way of increasing your sense of closeness is to complete shared responsibilities and tasks together to reinforce the security of the relationship. Studies show that women who feel that their partner equally contributes around the house are more sexually satisfied. Women in turn can find ways throughout the day of expressing appreciation and desire for their partner.
- Make It Steamy In The Bedroom
Create a sanctuary in your bedroom. You know that iconic scene in movies where the couple pushes off all the paperwork on the desk and makes love in the messy office? My experience working with couples leads me to believe that is unrealistic. Create a space in your bedroom that allows you to focus on nothing but you and your partner. Remove any work, reading materials, televisions or computers. Close the closet if it is not organized. Bring any laundry to the laundry room and if necessary throw that laundry off the bed!
- Igniting The Passion With Self Care
Take care of yourself. Stress prevents us from being truly present with one another. When our mind is in a tizzy, our body doesn’t get the message to relax. Encourage one another to practice self-care, such as taking time for individual therapy, massage, exercise, or enjoying a hobby.
Kate Fish, LMFT
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